I haven’t been a very happy bunny lately. I got home on Friday evening feeling quite deflated and low after work and decided that I really wasn’t in the mood to talk to anyone, look at social media or waste my time reading banal rubbish online. So I text my mum and told her if she wanted to contact me to call the house phone, then I switched off my Samsung and tucked it away in a drawer. Out of sight, out of mind.
And you know what, it was easier than you might think.
Yes I admit, I had a little moment where I did a bit of online shopping on the Asos app on my ipad, but other than that there was no waking up and seeing what was trending on Twitter, no mindless scrolling of my Instagram feed, no Facebook (although I hardly use FB these days anyway), no looking at jokes or motivational quotes on Pinterest to lift my mood and no constant checking for messages.
And you know what, I only really missed the BBC weather app. I don’t know if that’s sad or refreshing, but either way I don’t care.
This isn’t me going phone free forever because I admit, they are useful. I would literally be quite lost without google maps! But this is me being more – dare I say it – mindful about how much time I may or may not waste with my head bent down staring at my phone. Time to stop reading the garbage they churn out on Buzzfeed as my bedtime reading and actually, you know, read a proper book.
I would encourage everyone to put their phone down and appreciate their surroundings a bit more. Go for a walk, hug a tree, admire a flower without the need to instagram it – go on, I challenge you!
So after a bit of a hiatus I thought I’d come crawling back to my little blog space. Rather than leaping right in to more travel tips and tales, I have decided to ease myself in by writing a good ol’ list post and as ’tis the season (and let’s face it, you probably won’t hear from me until sometime in 2017 now) I thought I’d write a bit of a new years resolution post.
Now I’m not going to do anything silly like promise to blog every other day because let’s all be honest – that ain’t gonna happen but here are some things I would like to focus on for the new year ahead.
1. Follow a passion and learn something new
When certain aspects of life become stale, it’s time to shake things up. So I have just started doing a distance learning course in something I’ve always been interested in but never pursued. So far I’m really enjoying it but the only downside to doing the course is that it gives me alot less time for blogging. However, I’m learning alot and it could lead me onto something amazing if I’m lucky enough. But if not, then at least I tried.
2. Reignite my creative spark
I was a very creative child but somewhere along the way between discouraging art teachers and the world of work, my creative spark got extinguished. I miss being a creative free spirit and often complain to my hubby that I have no talents (besides being able to lick my own elbow LOL). Perhaps if I’d stuck at my creative endeavours I’d feel more satisfied with myself.
3. Look after my mental well-being
I have anxiety. I’ve been dealing with this shit for over 10 years now but it does seem to be a more openly discussed topic these days. I have had therapy. I have also been prescribed medication (which gave me awful side effects). Unfortunately where I got better at handling the type of anxiety I had, it has just morphed itself into a different kind of anxiety. I have good days and bad days (which I hide very well) and I’ve come to realise that if I’m going to get better then I need to invest more energy into helping myself on those bad days, because no one else is going to.
4. Be more conscientious
I’m someone who can be a little naive and impulsive sometimes. I feel that now is the time I need to pay a bit more attention to the things that I buy, starting with shopping for cruelty-free cosmetics and toiletries. I know its just a small change, but baby steps and all that. Oh and I’m always open to recommendations for new brands to try!
5. Do more volunteer work
Come February I will have been volunteering at the cat shelter for a year, which I am proud of because I am hopeless at sticking to things (remind me again why I’m writing this list?!). As much as I love the cats and what I do, I know that I won’t be there forever and would eventually like to donate my time to other good causes.
How about you? Do you believe in New Years Resolutions? And have you made any?
Thank you for reading this post, I raise my glass to you on New Years Eve and wish you a happy, healthy and prosperous 2017!
Long time, no see – or at least that’s how it feels.
But rather than doing the whole ‘sorry for my absence’ thing like I usually do, I make no apologies because I’ve been working my arse off at my day job putting in the extra hours trying to meet deadlines and you know what, when you’re sat looking at a screen constantly for over 9 hours a day, the last thing you want to be doing when you get home is spending yet more time at a computer. I think I’m tiring of technology in general.
I went to see Bridget Jones’s Baby on the day it was released. I absolutely love those movies and really enjoyed this one too. However, the woman sitting next to me felt the compulsive need to keep checking her phone. Annoying yes, but it made me think – if you can’t even sit through a 2 hour movie without looking at your phone umpteen times, then you have a serious problem.
Why are we all so obsessed with our phones and the internet?
I’m also slowly turning my back on social media. While at present, I am still quite fond of Twitter, sadly Pinterest has gone from hero to zero. Pinterest used to be my favourite, I joined initially when I was planning my wedding to gain ideas and inspiration, which then after the wedding progressed into a place where I could ‘keep’ recipes to try and hairstyles I liked. I enjoyed Pinterest as I found it uplifting and motivating until they introduced their ‘Picked for you’ pins – pins they suggest you might like based on what you’ve previously looked at.
They’ve got it all wrong. Sharing cute animal pictures and heartwarming rescue stories DOES NOT mean I want to see horrific images of animal cruelty splashed all over my feed. I have tried blocking, unfollowing and reporting but Pinterest keeps showing me progressively worse things that once you have see, you can’t unsee. One picture too many (which reduced me to tears) has resulted in me contacting them to complain and deleting the app. I am still waiting for a response.
So although I had high hopes and intentions of growing this blog in 2016, sadly it is not going to happen. My motivation has gone. I’ve lost my blogging mojo. Still, there’s no point forcing it. Only do it while it’s fun. So until that time comes again, I’m going to be off having real fun in the real world (and planning my next two adventures!).
I can’t believe we’re over halfway through the year already! It’s also that time of year where I feel like throwing in the towel on this blog, I’ve done it once already and oddly enough I said the same thing last July, but I think all that’s needed sometimes is a bit of sunshine, a dose of the real world and a something of a digital detox to get the blogging mojo back.
Speaking of digital detox, I got some of that when I visited Cuba back in May. Cuba nicely fitted itself in as the letter ‘C’ for the alphabet dating that hubby and I have been doing each month. I also wrote a post for how to spend 24 hours in Havana so if you’re thinking of visiting Cuba “before it all changes” then check it out!
I have also been making friends with lots of animals. My sister in law bought herself, me and hubby a ‘Meet the Meerkat’ experience which we did back in May, along with her boyfriend. It was cute and fun although I suspect the meerkats had a soft spot for the guys rather than us girls. Boo.
But I did manage to get this less than flattering selfie.
I’m the sort of kid who has a new favourite animal every week, so I’ve been to a few different zoos and wildlife parks over the past 3 months and I’m fortunate that I live relatively close to some really great ones here in the South East that do alot for conservation and wildlife charities. If you follow me on instagram you may have spied a few animal pics in between all the blue skies and black cats.
WHF is a big cat sanctuary which has the mission statement “To be recognised and respected as being a centre of excellence for endangered big cats”. It was a nice day out in the sunshine, although alot busier than I expected! I would love to go back and stay in one of the lodges they have there but they’re sooooo expensive!
The WHF also offer photography courses which I might have to look into. I’m kicking myself that I forgot to take my SLR camera along with me, although alot of the cats were hiding away sheltering from the heat.
It’s actually been pretty hot here in England lately and anyone who knows what the typical British summer is like will know that if the sun is shining then you make the most of it! So for my hubby’s birthday back in June we took a trip down to the coast and got ourselves a sweet little Travelzoo deal at a boutique hotel (or rather a restaurant with rooms as they call themselves), The Marquis at Alkham. I didn’t actually realise it at the time but Conde Nast Traveller even named it as one of their best restaurants in Kent!
I must admit having somewhat of a past with social anxiety, I’m much more comfortable in my local Nandos than fine dining establishments, so although the whole dining experience was total instagram food-porn I didn’t actually take any pictures of it as I really didn’t want to be that person. Plus it’s quite nice to not obsess over posting things on social media and just enjoy the moment – something I think we’re all starting to lose touch with.
I did, however, take a photo of our room’s ‘guard dog’. You just pop the cuddly toy outside the door to your room if you don’t wish to be disturbed by housekeeping – a cute and quirky take on the traditional ‘Do not disturb’ signs that you hang on the door!
Even stuffed animals can’t escape my mobile/camera lens!
Oh and hey, in other news, turns out my cat is better at twitter than me!
Also, there has also been some more alphabet dating antics but as I’ve rambled on enough for one post I will save that for another time!
Oh and I promise when the weather turns crap again to start posting more!
I’m a little late with my round-up but you’ll have to forgive me because April has been such a busy month! It kicked off with my birthday which I decided to celebrate in London with my husband. We had lunch at Inamo Soho and then took in the weird and wonderful world of Ripley’s.
Hubby and I went on another Alphabet Date (this time the letter ‘B’) but I haven’t had chance to write about it yet (incase you were wondering what Alphabet Dating is, then click here). Date ‘C’ is already planned for May and I promise it’s a good one!
We also celebrated our wedding anniversary at the coast, played mini golf AND we went to see Hairspray on tour, which was a Christmas gift from the in-laws. If you get chance to see Hairspray, then go! It’s fantastic!
Aside from the posts I linked to above, the blog also consisted of –
In all honesty, I am finding blogging alot of hard work for very little reward so I’m planning to take a digital detox at the end of the month. I doubt anyone will even notice let alone miss me, but sometimes I feel that investing too much time in the ‘online world’ isn’t healthy. I feel a little lost within myself right now so a break away will be a chance for me to spend some time not feeling bad about myself.
I’ll try not to get too sucked into the world of inspirational pinterest quotes as a form of motivation, but I did want to share a couple that I saw in the Hard Rock section at Ripley’s. I kind of love these…